A pregnant woman says she won’t be changing her newborn’s diapers, and people are fired up about it.
“I want to avoid every possible emotional pitfall that comes with having a baby,” Isabelle Heidrich, who goes by the last name Lux online, tells TODAY.com.
Lux, who is nine months pregnant, outlined her “controversial, unpopular opinions” in a TikTok video.
“I don’t care if it’s night or day — I will not be changing a single diaper,” Lux said in the video. “My entire body, hormonal system, everything that I am going to be going through, is in recovery mode. There is no way I’m going to be adding anything to my plate. I need to feed the baby, I need to feed myself and I need to sleep.”
Changing diapers will be her partner’s job in the first few weeks of their baby’s life, Lux says.
Her other “controversial” rules include no contact with family members during labor, no light-up toys and no children’s music. She says she wants to do a “beauty boot camp” as soon as the baby comes, and she doesn’t plan to pause her international travel plans: “This baby is going to come with me everywhere I go,” she said in the video.
“You can call me crazy if you want, but I literally don’t care,” said the content creator, who lives in West Palm Beach, Florida,.
While a few TikTokers found Lux’s list rational, writing, “If these are unpopular, people are crazy!” and “We love a strong mama with a plan,” many were skeptical.
- “Lol!!! Oh honey! You don’t know what is coming.”
- “Who is going to tell her?”
- “LMAO. Please check back in six months postpartum.”
- “This must be a joke.”
- “Planning to travel all over with the baby but talking to family is too much, LMAO.”
- “Bless your heart.”
- “Babies come and crash all plans. But dream all you can!!!”
Lux tells TODAY.com that while she feels strongly about her parenting plan, she is flexible.
“I understand that things change,” she says. “I have no idea what having a baby is going to be like — all of this could go out the window. This is how I would ideally structure things if I could.”
Her no-diaper rule is all about sharing the mental load, Lux says.
“In terms of taking care of a newborn, diaper changes are the easiest emotionally and physically task that you can give to someone else,” explains Lux. “It’s such a simple thing — all it does is take time.”
“It requires zero brain power, there’s nothing that could go wrong and you don’t have to check if you’re doing right.”